14 October 2009

sand

I called my mom today. She told me that she was up until 11:45 last night, contemplating calling me because I forgot to. She ended up not doing it because she was scared that I would be mad.

She wants me to call everyday. I don't know if I should be worried about this. On one hand, she's a mom and moms care. On the other hand, I've been away from home for about two years now and still wants me to call every day. I wonder if my sister (who's been away from home for like 7 years now) still calls every day. Is it me? Or is she like this to all of us?

It worries me because I start to think that she's emotionally dependent on me when I hear things like this. She's bipolar, so I don't know what crazy things she'll do.

Seeing her react this way reminds me -- to some extent 00 of how I was when I was with you. Stepping back, I see how it can be suffocating. But at the same time, I feel like my reasons were different than my mom's.

Seriously though, our conversations are trifling. Aside from the unusual admission that she contemplated calling me, we spent 1 minute confirming the things I did today:

"You went to class today?"
"Yeah."
"You went to work today?"
"Yeah."
"You ate today?"
"I ate earlier."
"Okay bye."

I love my mom and I don't dread our calls, I just wonder what'll happen when I get caught up in my own thing.

Are all moms like this? It doesn't have to be a call. It can be emails or texting.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I know my mother wants to call, but she's afraid that I'll get irritable or that I'm busy. That depresses me more than anything else, actually.

I wish they had something to keep them occupied. Something that doesn't involve us. It's not out of malice or aggravation; I just don't think anybody should attribute so much importance to somebody else. Nobody deserves that.